Tagged: drama

Jan 07

He was frustrated, I really shouldn’t have laughed…

The boys had been at the pool and returned early because the little one fell and hit his head. He had been running. He knows better. I gave him the look.

Right away he starts crying about how his brother was chasing him and…Then the brother cuts in with no he wasn’t and suddenly the little is growling, turning red, flexing his little muscles while breathing in big huffs. I was seriously afraid he was going to pop something.

I’ve seen him get all worked up and frustrated because he feels like no one is listening. And with two older boys around who like to play the dozens and make a joke of everything he does because he’s younger, the little has a hard time communicating sometimes.

A few deep breaths later, he wiped away his tears and I gave him my undivided attention so he could speak his piece. As I expected, he began to ramble about the brother chasing him and the uncle laughing at him and no one listens…And crying and huffing again.

He backed into the corner and huffed and puffed and yelled, “Everyone makes me angry!”

I laughed and he shrieked.

I told him I was sorry but he was being ridiculous. His brother had apologized for making fun of him and the uncle for laughing at him. Then I gave him the speech about choosing to be angry or letting the negativity go. He could be happy or he could sit in the corner huffing and puffing and being angry even after everyone had apologized.

And then I walked away.

He came out of the room shortly thereafter and began talking and playing with the other boys like nothing was wrong.

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Oct 29

Family Drama on the Late Night

Last night I was in the bed, dozing – or at least trying to – and I get a call from my sister…

“K, I might be moving in sooner than expected,” she says, voice cracking.

“Why?” I ask. “What happened?”

“Well, something happened to mom’s computer and they’re blaming me. Cee (our little brother) told them that I was the last one on the computer and now they’re calling me a liar, and Dre told me to pack up my bags. They’re kicking me out.”

I could hear the angst in her voice. I didn’t know if she’d messed up the computer, didn’t really care for that matter. I had no desire to get into the middle of a dispute amongst a household of people I did not live with.

“You know you can come here…” I said with a sigh. “Is Dre going to bring you here?”

“Honestly, I’m not sure…” I could here her composure starting to crack. “I don’t even know where I’m going to sleep tonight.”

“Who are you talking to?” I hear my mother ask sharply in the background. “You’re always calling people talking shit about me and don’t even tell the whole story.”

Wow…she can’t even call people to talk about how she feels or ask for a place to stay without being yelled at and accused of talking shit?

“Put mom on the phone,” I said exaspirated.

“Hello,” she says, slightly less abruptly but I could still hear the irritation in her voice.

“Mom, she called to talk to me. You don’t know what she’s saying, so just let her talk.” I had meant to add a little sugar to my tone but I responded to her with my own aggrivation at having to mediate any part of this dispute.

She doesn’t say another word to me. However, after handing my sister back the phone she continues yelling in the background.

“You guys just talk to me like shit!” She wails. “She doesn’t even tell the whole story and Kim yells at me to just fucking let her talk…” She trails off .

Oh the drama from my mamma. Whatever…

Ignoring the yelling and commotion in the background I tell my sister, “I’m not going to get in the middle of whatever you guys have going on there and I’m not coming to pick you up, but you know you can come here.”

I heard the slightest bit of relief in her sigh. “Ok sis, thank you.”

“And Ja?” I could at least give her some bit of encouragement. “I know it sucks to be treated in a way you feel is unfair, especially by people you love, but don’t let it get you down.

It was all I had to give at the late hour…It was all she could handle before breaking down into hysteria.

“It just hurts…” She said between sobs.

“I know, Ja. I know. But you can come here.”

I don’t even want to think about what happened when we got off the phone. All I could think is how messed up it is that my 18-year-old sister was an adult and didn’t even know what that meant. She was unprepared, ill equipt and being put on the metro rail with whatever she could carry the next day. There wasn’t much I could do besides be there for her, but I refuse to over-extend myself…

In the end, I was just angry at my mother…

Family sucks sometimes. *sigh*

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