Archive for January, 2009

Jan 12

Employee Privacy and The Internet

How much of your private life can employers control? Well, truly, most jobs begin and end at the office (whatever form that office may take), and on a schedule. It would seem there is a new era in which employers are beginning to encroach on the private lives of their employees; using the Internet and social networking as a scope.

Its horrible to hear stories of people being fired from jobs because of pictures and/or comments left on their social networking profiles. What does having fun over the weekend have to do with a person being sober on Monday and able to get the job done? Prior to the advent of social networks, one could trip the light fantastic on their day off if they wanted, go into work refreshed and productive no one be be the wiser.

It was also almost two years ago that the “Drunken Pirate” was denied her teaching certification because her MySpace pictures represented errors in judgment, and still there has been no precedent set to draw a line between what part of your public online life should be taken into account for the purpose of employer evaluation.

Personally, I try to keep my image online as clean as possible, and make my privacy settings high. I consciously select the parts of my life that I want to make visible to the general public and those I prefer to keep private. I understand that I have to create a personal brand and while it might not squeak, I have no fear of my image causing damage to my reputation.

However, the fact still remains that employers should not be able to use the information about employee private lives available via the Internet. Except in the cases when people’s profiles expose criminal activity (stealing from their workplace), job related negligence (photos in restricted areas on military bases), and lying about being sick (posting dated party pics on a “sick day”)…those are fireable offenses and should be treated as such.

Having a few drinks during your personal time and taking silly pictures…eh…not so much. The line isn’t super thick, but it’s not all that thin either.

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Jan 11

What the Heck is this Tripple “E” Challenge Anyway?

I’ve been attending a spiritual community called Sangha, and just before the new year, Dr. David, the spiritual leader gave us a challenge. This challenge was to look withing yourself and find a word/theme for the year. Every day, I pick a word using the in this theme. It sounds complicated but it’s really simple.

Theme for the year: Clarity

clarity-week-one-table1Rather fortuitous that clarity has seven letters for seven days of the week. When the theme is connected to the daily words, it creates an anagram and each week I will have a new one. Check out the chart to the right.

Now, I’m sure you’re wondering, what am I choosing these words for and why the theme and…and…and…

Well, this is were the Triple “E” part comes in. When I wake up in the morning I meditate on the word selected for the day, affirming that I will express, experience, and enjoy the attributes of this word as I go through my day. I am also exploring the idea of clarity; seeing things for what they are, being clear about where I am going…being on purpose.

Hopefully that clears up what I’ve been doing all week. I’ve been exploring these concepts as part of my spiritual growth process. I think when the year is over, and I look back at all of this, I will be amazed at all I have learned during the challenge.

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Jan 11

Tripple “E” Challenge: Time for Yeilding

Yesterday was about taking a time out and today is definitely about yielding. The message of the service at my spiritual community was even about led by the spirit. Really being in tune with the divine wisdom within and simply put, going with the flow.

Funny thing is that I wasn’t as moved by the delivery as my friend seemed to be. It wasn’t until I came home and looked at my word of the day that it hit me. Yielding. Sometimes you just gotta let things happen, rather than trying to force them into place.

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Jan 10

Talk About a Day of R-n-R

While I like to be busy, I also enjoy the occasional lazy day, doing practically nothing. Literally. Not leaving the bed but for food and other…bodily functions. Truthfully, I need one of these days at least once a month, but especially when I’ve been sick for what seems like forever.

So this morning I decided I was going to exert as little energy as possible, because I want to feel better. But I couldn’t just sleep all day so I watched movies: Super Bad, The Other Boleyn Girl and Pan’s Labyrinth; which were all good in their own way.

Super Bad was definitely an awesomely bad, cult classic, coming of age, comedy of errors, staring the lovable losers. Cut and print. I had a few laughs, no desire to see it again.

The Other Boleyn Girl
was yet another movie about Henry VIII and his wives, this time focusing on the family and how their ambition was both their downfall and a bittersweet victory.

Pan’s Labyrinth…now that movie was great. Fantasy mixed with realism; a beautiful allegory. It was thrilling and at times frighteningly cold, told in this illusory way, wrapped in an enthralling package…my heart was racing all the way through it and I want to watch again tomorrow.

So there you have it. My day in a nutshell. When was the last time you took a day to just relax?

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Jan 09

Tripple “E” Challenge: Integrity

Well…when I meditated this morning on expressing, experiencing and enjoying integrity, I certainly didn’t expect that to mean I’d be leaving work early due to sickness.

Sometimes having integrity means realizing that you need to just take a break. And that’s what happened to me today…

I hate missing work, but if I don’t take care of myself, I’m no good to anyone.

So here’s to having the integrity to admit when I just can’t do it anymore, to understanding that healthy = more productive, and to getting back to full health before going back to work on Monday.

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Jan 08

Tripple “E” Challenge: Anticipation and Revelation

Oooops! Missed posting yesterday’s Triple “E” homework…I did however do it. So today, I’ll post both yesterday’s and today’s words. I was far too sleep deprived yesterday to function in the morning…

I had a strange dream on Tuesday night that kept me up past my bedtime and when I woke Wednesday, the word “anticipation” popped into my head. So anticipation was the word for the day. I won’t tell you how I expressed, experienced and enjoyed anticipation, but please trust that I did all three. ;)

Today’s word is revelation. Goes great with my clarity theme for the year, right? Indeed. Revelation is how clarity can be obtained. So today, I am expressing, experiencing and enjoying revelation.

Funnily enough, my previous post today came as part of a wonderful revelation of a surprise. I also realized that I am not reading enough news and that I need to do more reading to be a better editor. I won’t beat myself up about what brought that revelation on, but it will improve my performance for sure.

I look forward to other ways to either reveal things or have them revealed throughout the day.

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Jan 08

The Mad Carpenter is My Boyfriend!

I know, I know…you’re probably wondering what happened to the daily spirit work posts…well. I haven’t forgotten, and I am still doing the assignment, but I have had other things to blog about for the last couple of days. I’ve still kept up with my daily blogging, so give me a break. ;)

For instance, I’d like to take this moment to totally muse about my boyfriend. OMG! I’m blogging about my boyfriend, what’s wrong with me?!

This deserves acknowledging. And hell, this is a personal blog anyway… :P

A few months back I talked about falling in love and struggling with the distance of the long distance romance, but ultimately, this relationship seems to be the healthiest I’ve ever been in.

And who is this man? Why he’s The Mad Carpenter of course!

I suppose I should get to the point…what inspired this gushing about my boyfriend?

This morning I received a wake up call from him, telling me to log onto my computer and check his blog. When I did, I found this. What a lovely way to wake up; to a romantic gesture and beautiful tribute to me and the gift I sent him for his birthday.

Despite the sickness I feel creeping up on me (I know, WTF?!) and the accompanying fatigue I’ve felt all week, I started the day with a spring in my step and all seemed right with the world. The fog might have been thick and the smog sticking to the mountain peaks off in the distance, but I don’t care because I have love. Real love.

He may be mad, but he is madly in love with me and if feels good to be reverenced in such a way. I haven’t felt so special in a very long time.

I truly believe ours is the type of romance every girl dreams of…I just never thought it would happen to me.

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Jan 07

The Boy is Awesome! He Get it From His Momma

Got a call from the boy’s teacher again. The boy had forgotten his homework and was in danger of missing the big field trip later in the year. There was a three strike rule after all, and he had just earned his second strike.

I was a little upset of course, partially because I know the boy works hard; doing hours of homework, making sure I check it (the boy is relentless), reading the decodable books over and over…I get exhausted just watching…

What made me think twice about coming down hard on him were my plurk friends who reminded me that the boy is amazingly independent and responsible for a six year old. Not so long ago, I talked about how much he misses me. Despite his teacher’s insistence that he’s acting out and attention seeking, when we’re at home, the boy seems to be doing just fine (stupid adults). So instead of chastising him, I showered him with hugs and kisses, told him I’m proud of him, that he was a great kid, that he was working really hard, and it would be a shame for him to miss out on the field trip because he forgot to turn his work in.

My plurk friends are right though. Since I’ve been working from home, I wake the boy up as I’m walking out the door. Sometimes, he’s up before that, getting in the shower, picking out his clothes and such; most of the time, needing no help from me. If he’s hungry, he even get’s his own breakfast (no he’s not cooking yet, but he can certainly make cheese toast, pour himself some cereal or toast some Eggos). Of course he’s not home alone, but my sister usually sleeps through both of our early morning routine so he’s doing it all by himself. He’s 6!

So Mr. Teacher sir, you can kiss mine and the boy’s awesome asses. We’re both doing the best we can and if that’s not good enough for your stupid field trip, then I’ll take the boy somewhere special on my own. You may not want to leave him behind, but I’ll tell you what he’ll learn if you do. It won’t be that hard work is rewarded. Instead, he’ll learn that no matter how hard you work, you’ll never be good enough.

That is what breaks my heart the most. That for all his hard work and self sufficiency, he’ll be punished for forgetting his homework a few times. I’m pretty sure, Mr. Teacher, that you’ve forgotten things even as an adult, but because you are an adult, no one told you (either verbally or with negative reinforcement) that your hard work was for naught.

The lessons the boy is getting from having to do so much on his own are just as important as learning to read and do math; just as important as doing homework and memorizing some list of words…As he grows up, he will emerge as one of the most mature, well rounded, confident, compassionate, intelligent and critical thinking kids in his generation; largely due to his being the only child (living with) his single mother. You might think his forgetting his homework is irresponsible, but the fact that he makes it to school everyday without much help from anyone sounds like he’s pretty damned responsible to me.

Yes, the boy is awesome!

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Jan 06

Tripple “E” Challenge: Make it Lasting

Technically, I did the exercise wrong yesterday…I couldn’t find the paper on which I wrote the instructions down. Funnily enough, I made this daily word thing far more complicated than it is. I found it so here’s what I’m doing; it’s called the Triple “E” Challenge.

I had the first part right, to assign a word to the letter of the day (the letters come from the theme word for the year). However, the Triple “E” part is affirming that I will express, experience and enjoy (the process) of whatever the word for the day is.

Today’s word: Lasting

So today I shall make things that should be, lasting. I will experience those things which are lasting and let go of that which is fleeting. I will enjoy the process.

To be honest, I’m not sure what to make of this, but part of my quest this year is for clarity, so I’ll figure it out. For now, I’m clear that somethings are meant to be lasting and others, not so much.

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Jan 05

Tripple “E” Challenge: Clarity takes Consistency

ConsistencyYesterday I talked about some spirit work I’d be doing this year. Just to refresh your memory, my theme for ’09 is clarity and each day I will be selecting a word to coincide with a letter from this word, affirm it’s meaning for my day and be open to its properties.

Sorry if it all sounds so abstract and metaphysical…If you’re confused as to what I am talking about, just pay attention, you’ll figure it out after the first couple days.

The word for today is, perhaps serendipitously, consistency. Quite apropos considering that consistency is quite possibly one of by biggest short-comings. I tend to get super enthusiastic and then fizzle out. However, if I am to achieve the goals which I have laid out here.

Consistency (noun):

1. a degree of density, firmness, viscosity, etc

2. steadfast adherence to the same principles, course, form, etc.

3. agreement, harmony, or compatibility, esp. correspondence or uniformity among the parts of a complex thing.

4. the condition of cohering or holding together and retaining form; solidity or firmness.

It seems fairly obvious what spirit is telling me. If I am to attain any real clarity – be it in vision or even in daily activities – I must impose structure on myself and adhere to some sort of program.

I guess it’s a good thing I decided to start this 365 blogging project, ey?

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