Archive for September, 2008

Sep 28

They Made Fun of Me!

Yesterday the boy ran into the house screaming. This is not an unusual occurrence, he is a very sensitive and kind soul, and many of the other kids either take advantage of him or make fun of his uniqueness.

So he runs into the house and slams the door. I walk down the stairs to find him crying his eyes out ito a pillow, on the living room sofa.

“What happened?” I asked giving him a squeeze.

“They made fun of me!” He bawled.

“For what honey?”

“I fell and they made fun of me!” As he answered the questions, he alternately lifed his head and went back to crying into the pillow.

“Oh honey,” I said enacting phase one of Operation Console the Boy. He was hysteriacal over some kids laughing at him? Inside I was rolling my eyes, but I had to validate how he felt. I rubbed his back and encouraged him to get himself together.

Phase two is kind of tricky. If I didn’t chose my words just so, he would implode again and think I didn’t understand.

“You know, it sucks when people make fun of you, but that’s what kids do.” I paused and took a deep breath. He was truly being inconsolable and my patience was wearing thin. “Look at me boy.”

The sharp tone in my voice  shook him out of his hysteria slightly and he looked me in the eyes, sniffling and trying to catch his breath.

“They didn’t mean anything by it -”

“Yes they did!” Back to bawling.

“Honey…I mean…Yes, they were being mean and -”

The head pops up as he shouts, “They hurt my feelings!”

“I’m sorry about that; I really am. And I understand how upsetting that can be. But you cannot get this hysterical every time someone makes fun of you honey,” I was rubbing his back, wishing he would just calm down. “Buck up boy, get yourself together. I need to give you someinformation that will help you deal wit this next time.”

Eyes swollen and wet, he looked at me and did the crying hiccups.

“It sucks that they made fun ofyou when you fell. I’ve never thought that sort of thing was funny, but most kids and even some adults disagree. Them laughing wasn’t about you, but because they are kids and that’s what kids do. You reacting in this way gives them way too much power. You’re going to have to learn not to let it get to you like this. Next time, take a deep breath, and let it go.

He turned away, looking throught the glass patio door. Wiping his tears away with the back of this hand, the boy discarded the pillow and asked, “Can I go back outside?”

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Sep 27

Obama/McCain Presidential Debate: Round I

Wow, never thought my inaugural post here would be politics. That’s what’s on my mind, so that’s what I’ll talk about.

Last night’s debate was rather disappointing. From the very first question, I waited and waited for Obama or McCain to say something substantive, but it was all fluff. Despite my general disenchantment, I still thought Barak Obama was the overall winner of the debate, for several reasons.

The cornerstone of John McCain’s arguments was Barak Obama’s lack of experience. Over and over, McCain reminded us about his war history and that he had been around for a long time. He also said Obama did not understand in response to Obama’s disagreement on almost every issue.

Besides the fact that disagreement is not the same as misunderstanding, what threw a wrench in McCain’s plan was when he said that Obama didn’t understand the difference between a strategy (the overall plan to achieve a goal/objective) and a tactic (specific implementation of a strategy). Not only was it pedantic, but if you paid careful attention to the examples used, McCain was the one who got the two mixed up.

In terms of the war, individual battles and such would be a tactic. McCain had the terms reversed, calling a specific battle a strategy. I probably wouldn’t have paid attention to a little detail like that, but McCain harped and harped on the fact that Obama just didn’t understand and then in his example, he was wrong. Unfortunately, most people don’t know the difference between the two terms (overall plan vs plan implementation) and missed that slip up; especially since even the analysts didn’t pick it up.

The other thing that really tilted the tables in Obama’s favor was McCain’s effort to blame people who didn’t want to invade Iraq in the first place, for the failure of said invasion. He called the current condition a “fragile victory,” saying that Obama’s lack of understanding and insistence on pulling the troops out of Iraq, would lead to Al Qaida setting up camp once the troops were gone.

So let me get this straight: The whole point of invading Iraq (or how it was sold rather) was because that’s where Al Qaida was hiding out, stacking weapons of mass destruction (WMDs). Since the invasion, we’ve learned that not only were there no WMDs but there was also no Al Qaida. Toss on the fact that the Iraqi people obviously don’t like American occupation of their country, and it becomes apparent that the failure was in deciding to invade Iraq in the first place. It was based on lies and a large reason for why our national spending is out of control.

What do you think?

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